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  • The Burnout Epidemic — and Why the Church Should Have the Best Answer

    The Burnout Epidemic — and Why the Church Should Have the Best Answer

    Here’s a number that stopped me: 82% of the global workforce is currently at risk of burnout.

    Not experiencing mild tiredness. Not going through a busy season. At risk of systemic collapse — the kind of exhaustion where your body, your mind, and your soul start to shut things down one by one.

    And the research adds something that makes it worse: there is zero correlation between working more than fifty hours a week and actual productivity. Zero. One study found no measurable difference in output between someone working seventy hours and someone working fifty-five. The extra hours were theatre, not fruit.

    Somewhere along the way, we confused being overwhelmed with being effective. We started wearing fatigue like it was evidence of significance. As Rich Wilkerson Jr puts it: “Depletion is not devotion. Busy is loud. Fruit is quiet.”

    Here’s the thing that should trouble every pastor and church leader reading this: the world is in a burnout epidemic, and we should have the best answer to it. We didn’t invent mindfulness or wellness retreats or the four-day work week. We are the custodians of something far older and far wiser — Sabbath. Not our idea. God’s. Built into the fabric of creation before the Fall, before the first sin, before anything went wrong. We inherited it from the biblical wisdom that shaped Israel, and it was given to humanity as a gift long before the church existed.

    So why are so many leaders in the church among the worst at practising what we preach?

    God Rested Before You Did

    Before we talk about what to do, we need to understand what Sabbath actually is — because most of us treat it like a maintenance stop rather than a theological statement.

    Genesis 2:2–3 says: “On the seventh day God had finished his work of creation, so he rested from all his work. And God blessed the seventh day and declared it holy.”

    This is before the Fall. Before sin, before brokenness, before the curse. Rest is not God’s remedy for a broken world — it’s built into the architecture of a good one. The very first full day Adam and Eve experienced was not a day of work. It was a day of rest with God.

    Then God formalised it at Sinai. The Sabbath command is one of the longest in the Ten Commandments — God knew we’d try to skip it. He still knows. Most of us do.

    Tim Keller captures why this matters so much: “To practise Sabbath is a disciplined and faithful way to remember that you are not the one who keeps the world running, who provides for your family — not even the one who keeps your work projects moving forward.”

    That’s it. That’s the whole thing. Sabbath is not primarily about recovering your energy. It’s about confessing that you are not God. It’s a weekly declaration of trust — that the world will continue to turn, the church will continue to breathe, the mission will continue to advance, even when you stop.

    Most of us intellectually agree with that. Very few of us functionally believe it.

    The Prophet Who Had Enough

    One of the most honest scenes in all of Scripture sits in 1 Kings 19.

    Elijah has just called down fire on Mount Carmel in one of the most dramatic moments in Old Testament history. A generation of Israelites have turned back to God. It’s the kind of day you frame on the wall. And then Jezebel sends a message: “By this time tomorrow, you’ll be dead.”

    Elijah runs. And collapses under a broom tree. And prays: “I have had enough, Lord. Take my life; I am no better than my ancestors.”

    He falls asleep.

    Notice what God does not do. He does not give Elijah a leadership development programme. He does not produce a five-point plan for spiritual resilience. He sends an angel who touches him and says simply: “Get up and eat.” Twice. Then God asks, gently: “What are you doing here, Elijah?”

    Sleep. Food. A question. A journey. And eventually, the still small voice.

    God’s response to a burned-out prophet is tenderness, not a productivity hack. It is rest, nourishment, and presence — in that order. The great wins of Elijah’s ministry did not come in spite of that season of collapse. They came after God had walked him through it.

    If you are a leader who is currently sitting under your own broom tree — tired in ways you can’t fully explain, disillusioned after what felt like a great season — this story is for you. God is not disappointed in you. He is looking for you.

    Sabbaticals Don’t Fix Sabbaths

    Here’s what I tell leaders who tell me they’re planning a sabbatical: “That’s good. But sabbaticals don’t fix sabbaths.”

    A sabbatical is a reset. Sabbath is a rhythm. And it is rhythm that sustains us.

    We treat sabbaticals like crash diets — a three-month fix for what a broken daily and weekly pattern has created. But if the rhythm doesn’t change, the cycle repeats. You come back refreshed for six months, and then you’re right back where you started.

    Israel learned this the hard way. The chronicler tells us (2 Chronicles 36:20–21) that the seventy years of Babylonian exile were, in God’s accounting, the land catching up on the seventy Sabbath years Israel had skipped across 490 years. God enforced the rest they had refused. The exile was not just judgement — it was recovery. The land finally got what it had been owed.

    Don’t think you’ll be the exception.

    Rick Warren gives leaders a framework I keep returning to: “Divert daily, withdraw weekly, and abandon annually.” Daily — something that’s not work, that replenishes rather than depletes. Weekly — the actual Sabbath rhythm, not church on Sunday but a full day of cease and delight. Annually — and this is the one we most misunderstand — not a spiritual retreat, not a working sabbatical, but a proper holiday. Fully disconnected. Genuinely joyful. The kind of time where you’re not catching up on reading, not journalling your leadership insights, not secretly checking your emails — just gone. Present to the people you love in a place that has nothing to do with your work. The third one only works if the first two are already in place. You cannot build a rhythm crisis-by-crisis.

    Let me be direct about what I am not saying. This is not a case for laziness, minimal effort, or a generation of leaders who treat rest as cover for lack of commitment. The Bible honours diligence. Proverbs is full of it. Paul writes about labouring to the point of exhaustion for the gospel. Nehemiah’s teams worked through the night. Jesus himself worked with an intensity that alarmed his family. Hard work is not the enemy — I believe in it deeply, and I think the church should model it.

    What I’m describing is not less work. It’s better work — disciplined, sustained, and properly rhythmed. A leader who works five or six focused, well-rested days will consistently outproduce — and outlast — a leader who works seven frantic ones. The research bears this out: productivity actually declines after fifty hours a week. What looks like more effort is often less output, dressed up in exhaustion.

    John Mark Comer puts the cultural diagnosis sharply: “Hurry is violence on the soul.” And we are a generation of leaders who have made our peace with hurry. We’ve called it commitment. We’ve baptised it in the language of the Kingdom. But frantic is not faithful. And depletion is not devotion.

    What Sabbath Actually Requires

    There’s a detail in the Exodus wilderness narrative that I find myself coming back to.

    God provided manna for Israel every day in the desert. Six days a week, it appeared. On the sixth day, a double portion fell so there was enough for the seventh. But on the seventh day — nothing. And those who went out to gather anyway found nothing there.

    Sabbath is God’s test: Do you trust Me to provide?

    Jesus reframes it in Mark 2:27: “The Sabbath was made for man, not man for the Sabbath.” It is not a burden to perform — it is a gift to receive. A Father saying: you don’t have to keep producing to prove your worth to Me. Stop. Rest. Let Me be God for a day.

    And in Mark 6:31, Jesus pulls his disciples away from the urgent crowds — “Come with me by yourselves to a quiet place and get some rest” — not because the crowds weren’t real, but because his disciples were more use to those crowds as rested people than as depleted ones.

    There is a version of leadership that protects the calendar. Great leaders protect the capacity. Clarity, creativity, and genuine spiritual influence are not available on empty.

    The Invitation

    Jesus says this in Matthew 11:28–30, and I want you to read it slowly: “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.”

    The invitation is for people who are already tired. Not people who have figured out their rhythms. Not people with healthy boundaries and excellent work-life integration. People who are weary and burdened — and that might be you.

    He offers not a technique but a relationship. Learn from me. Come and inhabit the pace of someone who was never in a hurry, who regularly withdrew to pray, who slept through storms, who paused for individuals in the middle of crowds.

    We have a saying at Ikon: Rhythm is more powerful than encounter, but an encounter has the power to change your rhythm. If you’re reading this exhausted, maybe this is your encounter. Let it change the rhythm.

    The world is burning out at record rates. The church should have the best answer. We have Elijah’s God — the one who feeds before He commissions. We have the Sabbath — built into creation’s DNA as a declaration that you are not the Messiah. We have Jesus — who said come, not perform.

    Stop calling depletion devotion. Start practising what we’ve been preaching.

    “If you don’t take a Sabbath, something is wrong. You’re doing too much. You’ve got to quit, one day a week, and just watch what God is doing when you’re not doing anything.” — Eugene Peterson

    Related: Don’t Build from Insecurity — on the identity roots of leadership exhaustion. The Capacity Gap — on building a leadership life that can carry more.

  • Not Everything Needs Your Attention

    Not Everything Needs Your Attention

    There’s a type of leader who is always in the room.

    Every email. Every conversation. Every decision — significant or trivial — passes across their desk, through their inbox, or waits on their word before it can move. On the surface, this looks like dedication. It looks like care. It looks like a leader who takes the mission seriously.

    But here’s what it actually looks like from the other side: a bottleneck. A ceiling. A room full of capable people who have quietly learned that their job isn’t to lead — it’s to wait.

    I’ve been that leader. Probably more than once. And the hardest thing to admit is that it didn’t feel like a problem. It felt like faithfulness, it felt like good stewardship.

    It wasn’t.

    The God Who Said Be Still

    Before we talk strategy, let’s talk about where the compulsion to be everywhere actually comes from.

    It’s fear.

    Not the dramatic kind — not fear of failure or of being found out. It’s subtler than that. It’s the low-grade anxiety of a leader who has quietly decided that if they’re not across it, it won’t be done right. That the organisation, the team, the ministry — whatever it is — depends on their constant presence to hold together.

    That anxiety has a scriptural counterpoint, and it’s worth considering.

    Israel is standing at the edge of the Red Sea. Pharaoh’s army is behind them. The water is in front. And Moses delivers one of the most counterintuitive instructions in the entire Old Testament:

    “The Lord will fight for you; you need only to be still.” — Exodus 14:14

    You need only to be still.

    There’s a reason “do not be afraid” is the most frequently repeated command in the whole Bible. God keeps saying it because we keep forgetting it. And the leaders who can’t stop needing to control everything — who can’t release, can’t delegate, can’t let anything happen without their fingerprints on it — are almost always, underneath it all, afraid.

    Afraid they’ll become unnecessary. Afraid things will go wrong. Afraid that releasing control means losing it.

    The God who parted the Red Sea seems remarkably unbothered by the idea of his people not being in charge of everything. It might be worth asking why we are.

    Moses Learned This the Hard Way

    There’s a scene in Exodus 18 that every leader should read slowly.

    Moses is judging the people of Israel from morning until evening. One long, unbroken queue of disputes, decisions, and cases — and Moses is the single point of contact for all of it. His father-in-law Jethro watches this for a day and then delivers a verdict that’s both compassionate and clear:

    “What you are doing is not good. You and these people who come to you will only wear yourselves out. The work is too heavy for you; you cannot handle it alone.” — Exodus 18:17–18

    Note what Jethro doesn’t say. He doesn’t say Moses is lazy. He doesn’t say Moses lacks commitment. He says Moses is hoarding something that was never meant to rest on a single pair of shoulders — and it’s destroying him and the people he’s trying to serve.

    His prescription is simple: identify capable people, give them genuine authority over real domains, and trust them to lead. “Select capable men from all the people — men who fear God, trustworthy men who hate dishonest gain — and appoint them as officials over thousands, hundreds, fifties and tens.” (Exodus 18:21)

    Moses does it. And Israel is better served.

    The miracle here isn’t just that Moses avoids burnout. It’s that more happens when more people are trusted with more responsibility. Releasing didn’t diminish the mission — it multiplied it.

    Here’s What Only You Can Do

    Releasing everything sounds like a principle. The harder question is what it looks like in practice.

    Here’s a framework I’ve found clarifying: there are four things — and in my experience, really only four — that a senior leader genuinely cannot hand to someone else.

    Vision. You are the primary carrier of the picture of the future. You can develop it with others, you can refine it in community, but you cannot outsource the burden of knowing where you’re going and why.

    Teaching and spiritual leadership. The pulpit is mainly yours. The spiritual tone of the community is set by your faithfulness, your prayer life, your walk with God. No one can hold that for you.

    Developing your senior leaders. The people closest to you — the ones who lead teams and hold responsibility — need you to invest in them directly. That relationship cannot be delegated two levels down.

    Championing the culture. What the community values, how people treat each other, what gets celebrated and what gets addressed — that starts with you. Culture is your responsibility.

    Four things. Everything else — genuinely, everything else — belongs to someone else.

    That’s the liberating flip side of Jethro’s advice. If it’s not on that list, there is almost certainly someone on your team who could carry it. Probably someone who would carry it better than you do now, because it falls within their gifting, their domain, their lane.

    The question is whether you trust them enough to let them.

    What Releasing Actually Produces

    Here’s what I’ve noticed: the leaders who release freely don’t get smaller. They get larger.

    When you open doors rather than guard them, when you give people real authority that matches their real responsibility, when you create room for others to step into their full capability — something remarkable happens. The people around you grow. And you grow with them.

    I once heard someone describe an empowering leader as a ceiling lifter — someone who makes space for others to stand taller. That observation is worth holding: you can never lift a ceiling you can’t reach yourself. But the corollary matters just as much: the most important ceiling in your organisation right now might be you.

    Moses with Jethro’s model in place was a far more effective leader than Moses alone — not because he did less, but because he unleashed more. He became something bigger than a single point of contact. He became the vision-holder, the culture-setter, the spiritual father of a movement — because he stopped trying to be the settlement point for every dispute.

    That’s the version of leadership worth aspiring to.

    The Fruitfulness Problem

    Jesus says something in John 15 that reframes everything:

    “I am the vine; you are the branches. If you remain in me and I in you, you will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing.” — John 15:5

    The branches that produce fruit are not the ones straining hardest. They’re the ones most deeply connected to the vine.

    There is a version of you that is always in the room, always the answer, always the bottleneck — and it produces less fruit than it should, because it’s running on its own effort rather than genuine connection. That version of leadership is exhausting. And it quietly robs the people around you of their own development.

    The freer version — the one that knows what only you can do, and releases everything else with genuine trust — is also the more fruitful one. Not because you’re working less hard. Because you’re working on the right things.

    Not everything needs your attention.

    But the things that do deserve all of it.

    Related: The Capacity Gap — on growing from full to overflowing.

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  • Healthy Leaders part 4 – Mutiplication over Management

    Healthy Leaders part 4 – Mutiplication over Management

    We’ve covered a lot of ground in this series. The revelation that God is good, which frees a leader from performing out of fear. The discipline of a narrow, focused vision instead of a scattered one. The internal structure — drive, discipline, decisiveness, detail, diplomacy — that lets a leader hold under pressure. All three of those, though, are still fundamentally about you: your foundation, your focus, your architecture. This final post asks a different question entirely.

    What are you actually multiplying?

    The Mantle Was Never the Point

    There’s a scene at the end of Elijah’s ministry that’s worth considering slowly. Elijah knows his time is nearly up. Elisha has been following him — serving him, watching him, refusing to leave his side even when Elijah tells him to stay behind. And Elijah asks him a question that changes everything:

    “Tell me, what can I do for you before I am taken from you?”

    Elisha replied, “Let me inherit a double portion of your spirit.” — 2 Kings 2:9

    Notice what Elisha didn’t ask for. Not the title. Not the recognition. Not even an easier version of the ministry he’d watched Elijah carry — a ministry that had included lonely wilderness seasons, confrontation with kings, and real personal cost. He asked for more of what Elijah already had, so that he could carry it further than Elijah himself had been able to.

    And Elijah’s answer is remarkable: “You have asked a difficult thing, yet if you see me when I am taken from you, it will be yours — otherwise, it will not.” (2 Kings 2:10) The mantle — literally, Elijah’s cloak — falls to the ground as Elijah is taken up, and Elisha picks it up and carries on. The point was never the object. The point was the multiplication of what the object represented.

    That’s the picture underneath everything in this the final post in this series: a healthy leader’s most important legacy isn’t what they personally accomplish. It’s who they leave carrying more than they themselves carried.

    Developing Leaders Lasts Longer Than Developing Ministry

    Mac Lake, whose work has shaped a lot of leadership pipeline thinking in churches like ours, puts it simply: developing a leader will last a season, but developing a leader who reproduces leaders lasts generations. That’s the difference between management and multiplication. A manager keeps the machine running. A multiplier builds people who can build other people, long after the original leader has moved on.

    This is why the fifth of our coaching movements always comes back around to the same question: who are you investing in right now who could eventually lead better than you? Leading is never at the expense of raising up the people who will carry the work further than you ever could alone.

    Three Questions Every Person Is Asking You

    John Maxwell frames it as three questions that people ask, and I’ve never found a team member, volunteer, or emerging leader who wasn’t quietly asking all three, whether they said so out loud or not:

    Do you like me? — the chemistry question. Do I actually matter to you as a person, or am I useful to you?

    Can you help me? — the competence question. Do you actually know what you’re doing, and can I trust your judgement?

    Can I trust you? — the character question. If things get hard, will you still be who you said you were?

    Multiplication only happens where all three questions get answered yes, consistently, over time. You can be competent and still fail to multiply anyone, if people never feel liked or trusted by you. Healthy leaders pay attention to all three, not just the one that comes easiest to them.

    The 10-80-10 Principle

    There’s a useful shorthand for how to actually spend your energy as a multiplying leader: roughly ten percent of the people around you are already self-motivated multipliers who need very little from you beyond access and opportunity. Around eighty percent are the movable middle — capable, willing, and genuinely responsive to good coaching and clear expectations. And the remaining ten percent will resist growth and investment no matter what you offer them.

    The instinctive move for most leaders is to spend the majority of their energy on that final ten percent — the resistant, the difficult, the people who take the most managing and give back the least. Multiplication requires the discipline to reverse that instinct: invest disproportionately in the eighty percent who are ready to grow, and resource and engage the willing ten percent who are already running, rather than exhausting yourself trying to drag along the people who have decided not to move.

    I See in You

    Some of the most powerful words you can say to an emerging leader have nothing to do with correction or instruction. They’re simply: I see in you. I see something in you that you may not yet see in yourself. Elijah didn’t sit Elisha down for a training course. He let Elisha watch him, serve alongside him, and eventually stand close enough to receive what fell when Elijah’s own ministry ended. Proximity, not just programme, is often what actually transfers a mantle.

    Ask yourself honestly: who is close enough to you right now to catch what falls when your season ends? If the answer is nobody, that’s worth addressing immediately as your no.1 priority.

    The Whole Series, in One Line

    We started this series with a coaching conviction that’s worth returning to as we close: healthy leaders build healthy teams, healthy teams build healthy organisations. That was never a side project. It’s the actual work. Everything we’ve covered — the revelation of God’s goodness, the discipline of a narrow vision, the internal structure that holds under pressure — all of it exists so that you become the kind of leader whose health genuinely multiplies into others, rather than a leader whose competence simply manages a system for as long as you’re in the room.

    This Week

    Name one person, right now, who could carry more than they currently carry if you gave them proximity, opportunity, and the simple words “I see in you.” Then actually say it to them, this week, not eventually. Elisha didn’t ask for an easier road. He asked for more of what Elijah already had. Somewhere near you is a person ready to ask you the same thing — even if they don’t yet have the words for it.

  • Healthy Leaders part 3 – Structured for Success

    Healthy Leaders part 3 – Structured for Success

    We’ve spent this series so far on the revelation that grounds a leader, the discipline of a narrow, focused vision. That’s the foundation. But healthy leaders actively build something on top of it: a structure sturdy enough to carry a lifetime of leadership, not just a single good moment.

    Here’s a story that shows exactly why that structure matters.

    The 208 Seconds

    15 January 2009. Captain Chesley “Sully” Sullenberger and his crew took off from LaGuardia Airport, climbed to just under 3,000 feet — and flew straight into a flock of geese. Both engines failed almost instantly. No thrust, over one of the most densely populated cities on earth, with 155 people on board.

    He had 208 seconds to decide what to do. He didn’t have time to consult a manual he hadn’t already memorised, or think through a decision tree he hadn’t already rehearsed a thousand times in his mind. He glided the powerless aircraft onto the Hudson River. Everyone survived.

    Afterwards, journalists kept reaching for the word “miracle.” Sullenberger, in his own account, pushed back gently every time. It wasn’t a miracle, and it wasn’t instinct either — not in the sense of some mysterious gift he’d been born with. It was forty years of flying, of discipline, of caring about details nobody else in the industry bothered with, showing up in the 208 seconds that mattered most. As he put it himself: for forty years, he’d been making small, regular deposits in a bank of experience, education, and training — and on that day, the balance was sufficient for a very large withdrawal.

    That’s the whole idea behind this post. The question worth asking isn’t “do you have what it takes for one great moment?” Most people do, once, if the adrenaline is high enough. The real question is whether you’re structured — built, wired, disciplined — to lead well long after the adrenaline fades, and to be ready when the moment nobody warned you about actually arrives.

    The Five Ds

    McManus offers a framework for exactly this kind of structure — five characteristics that separate leaders who sustain excellence from those who simply have good nights. He’s clear that these aren’t external tactics. They describe internal transformation. As he puts it, you’re not just building an organisation — you’re building a version of yourself, and what you lead becomes a reflection of who you’re becoming.

    Drive is the internal engine — motivation that doesn’t need an audience or an incentive to keep moving. It’s what gets you up when nobody’s watching and nothing external is pushing you. Scripture has its own word for this: Paul described running his race “not without aim” (1 Corinthians 9:26) — purposeful, self-directed, not dependent on the crowd’s applause to keep going.

    Discipline is the infrastructure that turns drive into something real. Drive without discipline burns hot and dies fast; discipline is what protects it long enough to produce fruit. Paul again: “I discipline my body and keep it under control” (1 Corinthians 9:27) — not because effort earns grace, but because an undisciplined life eventually undermines the very calling it was meant to serve.

    Decisiveness, McManus is careful to say, isn’t stubbornness. It’s the capacity to make the best call with the information you currently have, while staying humble enough to revise it when better information arrives. Leaders who can’t decide create paralysis. Leaders who decide but never adjust create rigidity. Healthy leadership holds both.

    Detail — McManus calls it being “detailed” — is the discipline of caring about the right small things without drowning in all of them. Vision sets the direction; details determine what people actually experience along the way. A leader who only thinks in big pictures will build something that looks impressive from a distance and falls apart up close.

    Diplomacy might be the most countercultural of the five. It’s the skill of telling the truth in a way that preserves the dignity of the person hearing it. Not people-pleasing, not conflict-avoidance — the harder, rarer skill of being simultaneously honest and kind. Paul’s instruction to the Colossians captures it exactly: “Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt” (Colossians 4:6).

    Structure Isn’t the Enemy of the Spirit

    Some of us grew up suspicious of anything that sounds like structure, as though discipline and decisiveness might crowd out dependence on God. It’s worth saying plainly: they don’t. The wisdom literature of Scripture is obsessed with structure — habits, disciplines, the ordering of a life so that wisdom has somewhere to land. A leader who prays for breakthrough but never builds the discipline to sustain one is asking God to do for them what they were meant to build for themselves, in partnership with him.

    Erwin McManus puts a version of this same conviction memorably: “If my mind can be structured for failure, then it can also be structured for success.” But it has to actually be structured. Good intentions aren’t a structure. Hoping you’ll rise to the occasion next time isn’t a structure. A one-off flash of brilliance under pressure proves you have potential. It doesn’t prove you’re ready to be trusted with the next crisis, or the one after that.

    This is precisely why healthy leadership can’t be reduced to a single formula or a single conference high. Inspiration fades within days; structure is what’s still standing when it does. The leaders who last are rarely the most naturally gifted in the room — they’re the ones who quietly kept making deposits long after the applause stopped, so that when their own 208 seconds came, there was enough in the account to draw on.

    This Week

    Read back through the five: Drive, Discipline, Decisiveness, Detail, Diplomacy. Which one is genuinely your weakest right now — not the one you feel guiltiest about, but the one that, if it collapsed, would take the others down with it? Name one concrete, unglamorous practice this week that builds that specific muscle. Not a resolution. A practice you can actually repeat.

    Healthy leaders aren’t the ones who never face a Hudson River moment. They’re the ones who’ve spent decades making small deposits so that when the moment comes, they don’t have to improvise character from nothing.

    Next in this series: even the best-structured leaders eventually face the question that matters most of all — not “did you have a great season?” but “who are you actually building for the next one?” That’s where we land this series next.

  • Healthy Leaders part 2 – Big Vision is Narrow

    Healthy Leaders part 2 – Big Vision is Narrow

    Last week we started this series with the revelation that has to come before anything else: God is good, and a leader who’s settled in that doesn’t lead from fear. This week we turn to something more practical, but it only works once that foundation is in place — because what I’m about to say sounds, on the surface, like the opposite of ambition.

    Big vision is narrow.

    I know how that reads. Vision is supposed to be expansive, isn’t it — the bigger the better, more initiatives, more services, more programmes, more ground covered. But almost every healthy leader I’ve watched over the years, and almost every unhealthy one, has taught me the same lesson from opposite directions: the leaders who are stuck are almost always trying to do too much. The ones who are genuinely fruitful have, at some point, made peace with doing less — but doing it exceptionally well.

    Without This, People Wander

    “Where there is no vision, the people perish.” — Proverbs 29:18

    That line gets quoted often, usually to justify adding more to the plate. But look again at what “perish” actually means in context — it’s closer to wander aimlessly, cast off restraint, do whatever they want. A people without vision isn’t a people doing nothing. It’s a people doing everything, scattered, with no filter for what actually matters.

    Vision isn’t the size of what you’re attempting. Vision is the picture of what could be, held together with the conviction that it should be. And a picture, by definition, has edges. It excludes as much as it includes. A vision that tries to hold everything isn’t a bigger vision — it’s no vision at all, just a longer to-do list with better branding.

    Better Fewer, Better Done

    Craig Groeschel has a line I keep coming back to, because it names something most leaders instinctively resist: it’s better to do fewer things well than many things averagely. A great Sunday. Great small groups. Depth over breadth. Most leaders who feel stuck aren’t lacking ambition — they’re almost certainly trying to do too much, spread so thin across every good idea that none of them actually flourish.

    Here’s the phrase worth sitting with: you don’t grow something down, you grow it up. It’s tempting to think health comes from adding more layers, more programmes, more initiatives stacked on top of what’s already stretched thin. Real growth almost always looks like narrowing the target and then going deeper into it, not widening the target and going thinner across it.

    Is It Just a Chair?

    Jesus told a parable about a woman who lost one coin out of ten, lit a lamp, swept the entire house, and searched carefully until she found it (Luke 15:8). And another about a shepherd who left ninety-nine sheep to go after the one that wandered off (Luke 15:4). Neither of those stories is about scale. They’re about focus — a willingness to give disproportionate attention to one thing that matters, rather than average attention to everything.

    That’s the question worth asking of everything you lead: is it just a chair? Is it just a coffee? Is it just a high five at the door? Is it just a kids’ session on a wet Sunday morning with six children in it? On the surface, those are small, easily overlooked details. But a leader with a genuinely narrow, focused vision doesn’t see them as small at all. They see every one of them as an opportunity for God to meet someone — and they refuse to let volume dilute their attention to what’s actually in front of them.

    Rehearse It Until You Can’t Not See It

    Vision isn’t just something you cast once and file away. It’s something you have to rehearse — go over it, re-enact it, hone it, repeat it — until it becomes the lens you see everything else through. There’s a concept from cognitive science called the reticular activating system: essentially, your brain filters out what it decides is unimportant and lets through what it’s been trained to notice. Buy a red car and suddenly you see red cars everywhere. They were always there. You just hadn’t been trained to notice them.

    The same is true of vision. A leader who rehearses a genuinely narrow, focused picture of what God is doing starts noticing opportunities that were always available but previously invisible — because their attention had been scattered across too many competing priorities to see any of them clearly.

    Believe for the Best, Prepare for the Best

    There’s a version of leadership that believes for the best but quietly prepares for the worst — hedging every vision with a contingency plan built on fear rather than faith. A healthier posture, and a harder one, is to believe for the best and prepare for the best. Not naive optimism that ignores real risk, but a settled confidence that lets you commit fully to the narrow thing rather than spreading yourself thin trying to protect against every possible failure.

    That posture only makes sense, by the way, once you’ve settled the revelation we talked about last week. You can’t prepare for the best while genuinely believing God might not be good. The two convictions are connected. A leader who trusts God’s goodness can afford to narrow their focus, because they’re not trying to cover every base out of fear — they’re pursuing one clear thing out of confidence.

    This Week

    Take an honest look at what you’re currently leading — your team, your ministry, your family, whatever’s in your hands. Ask: what would I have to stop doing, or stop trying to do at the same level, in order to do one or two things exceptionally well? What’s the “just a chair” moment in your world this week — the small, overlooked detail that a narrow, attentive vision would actually notice?

    You don’t need a bigger vision this year. You very possibly need a narrower one — held with more conviction, rehearsed more often, and given the kind of attention that turns an ordinary chair, coffee, or high five into a moment where someone genuinely meets God.

    Next in this series: a narrow vision still has to be carried by someone who’s built to sustain it. We’ll look at what it actually takes to be, in Erwin McManus’s words, structured for success rather than failure.

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  • Healthy Leaders part 1 – Good God

    Healthy Leaders part 1 – Good God

    Am I doing enough?

    Is this all going to go belly up?

    If you lead anything — a team, a church, a household, a small group that meets in your front room on a Tuesday — you’ve asked some version of those two questions, probably more recently than you’d like to admit. I know I have. Plenty of leaders I coach and sit across from confess the same quiet undercurrent: a low hum of imposter syndrome, a sense that they’re one bad season away from being found out, a driven-ness that looks like passion from the outside but feels like proving from the inside.

    Here’s what I’ve come to believe after years of watching leaders burn out, coast, or genuinely thrive: none of that gets fixed with a better strategy. It gets addressed at a much deeper level — the level of what you actually believe about God.

    Everything Rises or Falls on …

    Scripture puts something remarkable in front of leaders before it gives them any instructions about leading:

    “Keep watch over yourselves and all the flock of which the Holy Spirit has made you overseers. Be shepherds of the church of God, which he bought with his own blood.” — Acts 20:28

    Notice the order. Keep watch over yourselves. Not the flock first. You first. Because whatever is happening inside the shepherd will eventually show up in how the sheep are led.

    And what’s happening inside so many of us — if we’re honest — is that we’re leading out of a low-grade fear rather than a settled revelation. Fear that we’re not enough. Fear that the whole thing depends on us performing flawlessly. Fear that if people really knew what was going on beneath the surface, they’d lose confidence in us entirely.

    Without a clear revelation that God is good — that he is genuinely for you and genuinely with you — healthy leadership will always, eventually, elude you. You’ll drive yourself to prove your worth. You’ll overcome one insecurity only to discover another lurking behind it. You’ll do the maths on your own performance every single week, and the maths will never quite add up to peace.

    Good

    There’s a reason the word “good” appears so early and so often in Scripture’s own story of the world. Creation itself is called good — not merely acceptable, but good in the sense of everything working in line with its purpose, everything held together in harmony. That’s close to what the Hebrew word shalom actually means: not simply an absence of conflict, but peace, wholeness, prosperity, health — things fitting together as they were designed to.

    When you carry a settled revelation that God is good, you’re not just affirming a nice theological idea. You’re anchoring your leadership in the conviction that the world — and your part in it — was built for flourishing, not for constant crisis management. That conviction changes how you interpret a hard week. It’s the difference between “everything is falling apart” and “we’re in a hard season, but there’s good ahead.”

    The Spirit He Gave You

    Paul writes to Timothy — a young, clearly anxious leader, if you read between the lines of those letters — with a sentence that deserves to be read slowly:

    “For the Spirit God gave us does not make us timid, but gives us power, love and self-discipline.” — 2 Timothy 1:7

    Timidity, in that verse, isn’t shyness. It’s the cowering, small, defensive posture of someone convinced they’re on their own, that everything depends on their own resources, that one mistake will unravel the whole project. Paul says plainly: that is not the spirit God gave you. What he gave you instead was power, love, and a sound mind. If you’re leading from fear, you’re leading from a spirit that was never actually issued to you.

    That’s worth meditating on and praying about. The insecurity many of us carry isn’t a personality trait we’re stuck with. It’s a misunderstanding we’ve been leading from, sometimes for years, without ever noticing we had the option to put it down.

    Even in Exile, Still Good

    Here’s where the revelation gets tested, because it’s easy to believe God is good when the numbers are up and the team is thriving. It’s much harder to believe it in the seasons that feel like exile — the plateau, the setback, the leader who’s watching something they built quietly struggle.

    God’s word to his people, sent into exile for seventy years, was not “abandon hope until things improve.” It was this:

    “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” — Jeremiah 29:11

    That promise was spoken into the hardest, most disorienting season those people would ever face. Not after it. During it. Which means the revelation that God is good isn’t reserved for the leaders whose graphs are trending upward. It’s available in the exile seasons too — arguably it’s needed there most.

    David, who knew both the mountaintop and the wilderness better than most leaders ever will, arrived at the same settled place by the end of his life: “Surely your goodness and love will follow me all the days of my life, and I will dwell in the house of the Lord for ever.” (Psalm 23:6) Not “surely things will always go smoothly.” Surely his goodness will follow me. Every day. Whatever the day holds.

    Why This Has to Come First

    This is the hub the rest of your leadership turns on. Vision, strategy, team culture, systems — every single one of the practical things we’ll get into later in this series only functions well when it’s being driven by a leader who isn’t secretly performing for their own sense of worth. A leader convinced of God’s goodness can absorb criticism without collapsing. They can celebrate someone else’s success without feeling threatened by it. They can make a hard call without needing everyone in the room to validate it first.

    A leader who is quietly unconvinced of God’s goodness will eventually turn every single one of those same situations into evidence for their own insecurity.

    This Week

    Ask yourself honestly: when things go wrong, what’s the first sentence that runs through your head? Is it some version of “I’ve failed” and “I’m not enough” — or is it “God is good?” You may not be able to change that instant reflex overnight. But you can start naming it, and you can start replacing it, deliberately, with the actual truth on offer in Jeremiah 29:11 and Psalm 23:6.

    Healthy leadership doesn’t begin with a framework. It begins with a revelation. Before you lead anyone else this week, let that settle: God is good, he is for you, and he is with you — not because of what you’ve produced, but because that was always who he is.

    Next in this series: once that foundation is settled, the next healthy habit is surprisingly countercultural — a genuinely healthy leader’s vision is narrower than you’d expect, not wider.

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  • Don’t build from Insecurity

    Don’t build from Insecurity

    There is a sentence our culture repeats so often that we have stopped hearing it as advice and started treating it as reality: you have to prove yourself.

    Prove your worth. Prove your relevance. Prove you belong in the room. And if you cannot prove it yet — well, fake it ’til you make it. Project the confidence now and let the substance catch up later.

    I have written before about why fake it until you make it is not a sustainable leadership strategy. But I want to come at it from a different angle here. Not the ethics of it. The cost of it.

    Because something happens to a person who builds their life on the need to prove themselves. Success stops working. You reach the thing you were reaching for, and instead of arriving, you find a new bar has quietly appeared just above your head.

    That is what insecurity does. It makes achievement unsatisfying. When your identity is anchored in your performance, no performance is ever quite enough — because the point was never the achievement. The point was the proving. And proving is a game with no final whistle.

    You can start something from insecurity. You cannot sustain anything from it.

    Burnout Is Not Always About Workload

    Here is something I have observed over years of leading teams, and it took me a long time to name it.

    Burnout is not always caused by working too hard.

    Some of the hardest-working people I have ever known never burned out. They carried enormous loads for decades, gave everything, and finished well — and there was still light in their eyes at the end of it. Meanwhile I have watched people burn out on a workload that, on paper, should not have broken anyone.

    So the arithmetic does not work. Hours do not fully explain it. Effort does not fully explain it.

    What explains it is weight — and specifically, the weight of an identity God never asked us to carry.

    Benjamin Lim puts his finger on this well: exhaustion often has less to do with how much you are doing and more to do with who you are trying to be while you do it. Two people can carry the same task. One is carrying the task. The other is carrying the task plus the constant burden of justifying their own existence through it.

    Only one of those two is going to last.

    Jesus said something about this that we tend to read devotionally and miss practically:

    “Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.” — Matthew 11:29–30

    Notice: Jesus does not offer a life with no yoke. He offers his yoke. There is still something to carry. But the thing he gives you to carry is fitted to you. The exhaustion most of us feel is rarely the weight of his yoke. It is the weight of the extra load we strapped on ourselves.

    Paul’s Extraordinary Sentence

    There is a moment in 1 Corinthians where the apostle Paul says something that should stop us in our tracks. He is talking about his own ministry — a ministry of astonishing output — and he sums the whole thing up like this:

    “But by the grace of God I am what I am, and his grace to me was not without effect. No, I worked harder than all of them — yet not I, but the grace of God that was with me.” — 1 Corinthians 15:10

    Read that first clause again. By the grace of God I am what I am.

    That is not a man managing his brand. It is not false modesty, and it is not the language of someone with something to prove. It is a settled statement of fact. Paul is not defending his identity. He is reporting it.

    And look at what follows. Paul does not downplay his effort — “I worked harder than all of them” is not a humble line. He was extraordinarily productive. But the productivity is not where he locates his worth. Grace is the source, grace is the engine, and grace gets the credit.

    Paul built from identity, not from insecurity. He built from grace, not from validation.

    Gordon Fee spent much of his life arguing that when Paul says grace, he does not just mean pardon — he means, in Fee’s phrase, God’s empowering presence. Grace is not only the reason Paul is forgiven. It is the reason he is able.

    That reframes the whole question. If your capacity comes from your need to prove something, it is only ever as durable as your confidence. If your capacity comes from grace, it does not run on your self-assessment at all.

    The Exhaustion of a Borrowed Calling

    Here is where I think a lot of good people are quietly wearing themselves out.

    They are not chasing the wrong thing because they are unspiritual. They are chasing the wrong thing because they are watching someone else. They have seen a life, a ministry, a platform, a gifting — and they have set out to reproduce it.

    Maybe the Church down the road is doing something and if we’re honest, comparison, competition and maybe even jealousy is driving us to do the same thing. 

    But you cannot imitate someone else’s grace. You can only develop your own.

    Trying to become someone else’s calling is one of the most draining things a person can attempt, because you are running on a grace that was never assigned to you. There is no supply line. Whereas knowing your own identity produces something you rarely hear associated with ambition: peace.

    Scripture gives us a remarkable case study. John the Baptist’s disciples come to him, agitated, because Jesus is drawing bigger crowds. This is the comparison test in its purest form — someone else’s numbers are going up and yours are going down. John’s answer is astonishing:

    “A person can receive only what is given them from heaven.” — John 3:27

    He does not compete. He does not spin it. He simply names the truth that you cannot receive what has not been given, and you were never meant to. A few verses later he adds the line that has echoed for two thousand years: “He must become greater; I must become less.” (John 3:30)

    That is not resignation. That is freedom. John knew the shape of his own assignment so clearly that another man’s increase did not threaten him.

    And this is the mercy of how God has designed you. He has already fitted you out — with spiritual gifts, with particular burdens that stir something in you, and with specific assignments that belong to you and not to the person you have been comparing yourself with. I wrote a whole book on this, Empowered: Discovering and Developing Your Spiritual Gifts, precisely because so many believers have never taken inventory of what God actually put in their hands. You can find it on Amazon here.

    Comparison blinds you to what is in your hands. It has you straining for someone else’s tools while your own sit unused.

    So if you feel drained, there is a better question than how do I find more energy? It is this: am I carrying something God never assigned to me?

    Grace Will Stretch You — and It Will Sustain You

    Let me be careful here, because there is a lazy version of this teaching, and it is not what I am saying.

    Living from grace rather than insecurity does not mean life gets easy. Grace stretches people. Paul’s assignment nearly killed him more than once. If you are looking for a calling that never costs you anything, you are not looking for grace — you are looking for comfort.

    But here is the difference, and it is everything: grace stretches you and grace sustains you. Insecurity only stretches.

    And grace does not evaporate in the difficult seasons. That is the fear, isn’t it — that in the hard stretch, when the results dry up and the encouragement stops and you cannot feel anything, the supply has been withdrawn. It has not. The grace of God is not a performance-related bonus. It is not reviewed quarterly. More often than not, the hard season is precisely where you discover it was carrying you all along.

    Paul learned this in the place he least wanted to be, and came out of it saying, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” (2 Corinthians 12:9)

    Sufficient. Not abundant, not comfortable, not impressive. Sufficient. Which is exactly the word you need when you are stretched. Enough, from a God who is more than enough.

    The Question Worth Asking This Week

    So here is what I want to leave you with. Not a technique. A question.

    Take some time this week, on your own, and ask God this:

    “Lord, what is it you have asked me to carry?”

    Sit with it. Do not rush to fill the silence with your own answer. Then ask the harder follow-up:

    “And what am I carrying that you never asked me to?”

    You may find there is something you need to put down. A comparison you have been feeding. An ambition you inherited from watching someone else. A version of yourself you have been performing for an audience that never actually required it.

    Then write down what is genuinely in your hands. The gifts. The burdens. The people. The assignment. And notice this: God gave you every item on that list. You did not earn any of it, and you do not have to justify any of it.

    A person can receive only what is given them from heaven. And what has been given to you is enough — because the One who gave it has no intention of leaving you to carry it alone.

    Stop building to prove you belong.

    You already do. Now build from that.

    With thanks to Benjamin Lim, whose thinking on insecurity and the weight we carry shaped several of the ideas in this post.

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  • Choose Your Travelling Companions

    Choose Your Travelling Companions

    When Luis de la Fuente took over as head coach of the Spanish national football team, one of the first things he did was give his squad a language for what they were building together.

    He called them travelling companions.

    Not teammates. Not a squad. Travelling companions. People who share the same road, the same discomfort, the same destination — and who are changed by the journey together.

    De la Fuente borrowed the frame from Julius Caesar, who said something like: if you want to truly know a person, go through a battle with them. Not a training session. Not a meeting. A battle. The kind that costs something.

    It’s a very different thing from being on the same team. Teams win or lose together. Travelling companions become together. The journey shapes them in ways that good weather never could.

    Spain went on to win the 2024 European Championship and the 2026 World Cup. And the thing people noticed most wasn’t the tactics or the individual brilliance — it was the culture. Players who didn’t play stayed to train and kept the others sharp. Veterans protected the young ones. The senior figures set the tone in the dressing room long before kick-off.

    They were companions, not tourists.

    Who You Walk With, You Become

    Here’s the thing most of us know but rarely act on: the people closest to you are not just around you. They are shaping you.

    Solomon understood this long before De la Fuente put a name to it:

    “Walk with the wise and become wise, for a companion of fools suffers harm.” (Proverbs 13:20)

    That word walk is not passive. In Hebrew, it implies an ongoing, chosen direction of travel. It’s not an accident — it’s a regular, deliberate path you take with someone. And Solomon’s claim is stark: the consistent companions you choose are determining who you are becoming.

    Not influencing. Not contributing to. Determining.

    This should make all of us stop and audit our relationships. Not with suspicion, but with honesty. Who are you regularly walking with? And where is that walk taking you?

    The answer might be: toward wisdom, clarity, deeper faith, greater courage, sharper vision. Or the answer might be: toward cynicism, small thinking, fear, spiritual drift. Your companions don’t just affect your mood. They affect your trajectory.

    And then there’s this, which is perhaps the most honest thing the book of Proverbs says about friendship:

    “Iron sharpens iron, and one person sharpens another.” (Proverbs 27:17)

    Iron sharpens iron. Two hard things in contact, producing friction — and the result is that both become sharper.

    The relationships that most form us are not always the comfortable ones. They’re the ones where we are genuinely challenged: where someone asks the question we’ve been avoiding, holds us to the standard we claimed, speaks the truth we needed to hear before we wanted to hear it. That is what a companion does. And it only works when both parties are willing to be sharpened.

    The companions question isn’t just about who will stand with you when it gets hard. It’s about who is making you sharper right now — in the ordinary, non-crisis days when nobody’s watching and life is just happening.

    Tourists and Companions

    Now here’s the harder part.

    Tourists and companions look identical when the weather is good. Same conversations, same laughs, same commitment to the vision. You genuinely cannot tell the difference when everything is going well.

    You only find out when the conditions change.

    In Nehemiah 4, the wall project runs into serious opposition. Sanballat and Tobiah — Nehemiah’s main adversaries — have been hostile from the start. But they become actively dangerous when the wall starts to close its gaps.

    That’s the pattern to notice: the opposition didn’t intensify when Nehemiah announced his plans. It intensified when the work started working.

    As Christine Caine puts it: “The enemy doesn’t attack what isn’t a threat.” And Priscilla Shirer adds: “He reserves his fiercest opposition for those who are actually moving.”

    If you are facing serious resistance right now, it may simply be evidence that the wall is being built. That the gaps are closing.

    But notice what the opposition does to the people on the ground. Nehemiah 4:10–12 describes three things that start happening inside the team:

    Exhaustion. The labourers say their strength is giving out. They’ve been at this a long time and the cost is showing.

    Overwhelm. They say “there is so much rubble” — the scale of the task has become crushing in a way it didn’t feel at the beginning.

    Fear spreading inward. Those living near the enemies kept telling them what was coming — “wherever you turn, they will attack us.” Fear, when it finds a voice, is contagious. It moves through a team faster than courage does.

    This is the moment when tourists and companions diverge.

    Tourists recalibrate. They assess the risk, protect their interests, quietly reduce their exposure. They may still be present. They may still look like they’re on the team. But the shoulder has come off the work.

    Companions stay. And not just stay — they respond.

    Positioned by Families

    What Nehemiah does next is brilliant — and it’s not just logistically brilliant. It’s theologically significant.

    “After I looked things over, I stood up and said to the nobles, the officials and the rest of the people, ‘Don’t be afraid of them. Remember the Lord, who is great and awesome, and fight for your families, your sons and your daughters, your wives and your homes.’” (Nehemiah 4:14)

    He positions the people next to those they love. Families, not functions. He doesn’t reorganise by skill set. He puts people next to the people they’re actually fighting for.

    And he does something else: he creates a rallying signal. A trumpet call that means: wherever you hear it, run to that sound, because that’s where the breakthrough is happening and that’s where your companions need you.

    “Wherever you hear the sound of the trumpet, join us there.” (Nehemiah 4:20)

    This is community deployed as a military strategy. The protection isn’t just emotional — it’s structural. Knowing who your people are, and knowing they will come to the sound of the trumpet, changes what you’re able to do.

    Ecclesiastes puts it plainly:

    “Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labour: if either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up… a cord of three strands is not quickly broken.” (Ecclesiastes 4:9–10, 12)

    The cord of three strands isn’t sentimental. It’s structural. Three strands braided together are not three times stronger than one — they are exponentially stronger. Because the load is distributed and the breaking point is not a single thread failing. It’s every thread having to fail at once.

    What Opposition Produces

    There’s one more thing we need to say, because it changes how you feel about the whole season.

    The opposition is not wasted.

    “We also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope.” (Romans 5:3–4)

    Perseverance. Character. Hope. These are not things you can manufacture in comfort. They can only be forged under pressure. And they are forged most deeply in community — when you watch your companions stay when they could leave, when you feel their shoulder on the work beside yours, when you hear the trumpet and you go.

    The result of all of it? When Nehemiah’s enemies heard that the wall had been completed, Nehemiah 6:16 records their response: “they were afraid and lost their self-confidence, because they realised that this work had been done with the help of our God.”

    The completed wall was a witness. Not just to the people inside it, but to everyone who had tried to stop it.

    Your completed wall — the thing you are building through this hard season — will be a witness too. But only if you don’t finish it alone.

    Three Questions

    Who is sharpening you right now? Not who you enjoy — who challenges you, inspires you, asks the hard questions, speaks the truth even when it costs them something. If you can’t name anyone, that’s the first thing to address.

    Who would you call to the sound of the trumpet? When the opposition comes and you need companions, not tourists — who do you actually trust to show up? Name them. And go deeper with those people now, while the conditions are good.

    Are you being someone else’s travelling companion? This question works in every direction. You are not just looking for sharpeners — you are called to sharpen. You are not just looking for people to come to the sound of the trumpet — you are called to be someone who runs toward it for someone else.

    Tourists enjoy the journey and go their separate ways.

    Companions are changed by it — and change each other.

    Choose carefully. Begin now. The road ahead is better than you think, and it’s worse than you think, and you are not meant to walk it alone.

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  • Find Your Section

    Find Your Section

    There’s a chapter in Nehemiah that almost nobody preaches.

    It’s chapter 3. The whole thing is a list of names and tasks. Fifty-something people or groups, each assigned a section of the broken wall. It reads like a project management spreadsheet. No drama. No battle. Just names and walls and gates.

    Most Bible teachers skip it or treat it as background material — a chapter you acknowledge before moving on to the good stuff.

    But I think chapter 3 is where the real revolution is.

    Because underneath all those names and sections is an idea that completely dismantles one of the most comfortable assumptions in church culture: that some people are builders and everyone else watches.

    In the kingdom of God, there is no audience. There is only a wall — and your section of it.

    The Chapter Nobody Preaches

    Here’s the line that stood out to me when I was studying Nehemiah 3:

    “Jedaiah son of Harumaph made repairs opposite his own house.” (Nehemiah 3:10)

    That’s it. Jedaiah’s contribution to one of the great rebuilding projects in Israel’s history was: he fixed the bit nearest his front door.

    Not a heroic calling. No special assignment. He looked at what was in front of him and started building.

    And here’s the thing — Nehemiah records this. Jedaiah’s name is in Scripture. Not because he did something extraordinary, but because he showed up and owned his section.

    This pattern repeats throughout the chapter. Shallum and his daughters built their section (3:12). The priests repaired the Sheep Gate (3:1). Merchants rebuilt the wall nearest their trade district (3:32). Over and over: each family, each group, each individual — building what was in front of them.

    The genius of Nehemiah’s leadership wasn’t that he found a few extraordinary people to do all the work. It was that he distributed the work so that everyone had a stake in what was being built. Every section mattered. Every name counted.

    Build what’s in front of you. That’s the principle. Not “wait until you find your perfect role” or “get the right position first.” Just start with whatever is nearest you — and build it well.

    That’s your family, your character, your marriage, your finances. Maybe it’s your business for the glory of God, for all of us it’s Gods church.

    There Is No Audience

    But before we get too comfortable, we need to sit with the more disruptive implication of Nehemiah 3.

    In most churches, there is an unspoken assumption that ministry is something a small group of professionals do while everyone else watches. Leaders preach. Staff lead. The congregation attends.

    But Nehemiah 3 doesn’t have an audience. It has builders.

    And the New Testament doesn’t have an audience either. Paul’s letter to the Ephesians makes this explicit:

    “So Christ himself gave the apostles, the prophets, the evangelists, the pastors and teachers, to equip his people for works of service, so that the body of Christ may be built up.” (Ephesians 4:11–12)

    Read that carefully. The leaders — apostles, prophets, evangelists, pastors, teachers — are not the primary delivery mechanism for ministry. They are the equipping mechanism. The ministry itself is done by the people. The church doesn’t exist so that leaders can minister to a passive congregation. The church exists so that an equipped people can do the ministry.

    John Stott put it plainly: “The church is not a passive audience watching a professional performance.”

    This isn’t a new idea. It’s as old as Nehemiah 3. The problem is that we keep forgetting it — and then building structures that reinforce the forgetting.

    If your church has 200 people, you don’t have 5 ministers and 195 congregation members. You have 200 ministers. Some of them may be ordained. Most of them aren’t. But the Spirit doesn’t care about that distinction when distributing gifts.

    N.T. Wright on Ephesians 4 captures this perfectly: the church is “simultaneously receiving and contributing.” There’s no one in the body who is only receiving. Everyone who has been given the Spirit has been given something to give.

    The Nobles Who Didn’t Build — and the Tekoites Who Built Twice

    I need to tell you about two groups in Nehemiah 3, because I think you’ll recognise both of them in every church and every team you’ve ever been part of.

    The first group: “The nobles of Tekoa would not put their shoulders to the work under their supervisors.” (Nehemiah 3:5)

    The nobles. The most resourced people in the room. The ones with the most influence, the most connections, the most to offer. And they didn’t build.

    We don’t know why. Nehemiah doesn’t explain. Maybe they thought it was beneath them. Maybe they had objections to the methodology. Maybe they were waiting to see if it was going to work before committing. Maybe they just didn’t feel like it. Whatever the reason — the most capable people on the team were spectators.

    It’s a devastating line. They would not put their shoulders to the work.

    The second group: the Tekoites. Same town — same Tekoa. They repaired their section of wall (3:5). And then, later in the chapter: “The Tekoites repaired another section” (3:27).

    They finished, and then they asked what else needed doing.

    Two groups from the same place. Same proximity to the project. Completely different posture toward it. The nobles who watched and the Tekoites who built twice.

    Which one are you?

    You Are Indispensable — Specifically

    Here’s the part that I think most important.

    Most of us assume that “indispensable” means being extraordinary. Having rare gifts. Being the person nobody could do without because of your unique talent or position.

    But Paul uses the word differently:

    “On the contrary, those parts of the body that seem to be weaker are indispensable.” (1 Corinthians 12:22)

    Not the extraordinary ones. The seemingly weak ones. The ones who feel like they’re not enough, don’t have the right gifts, wouldn’t be missed.

    Those are the ones Paul calls indispensable.

    Because the body doesn’t function when any part is missing. Not just when the visible, prominent parts are gone — when any part goes missing. The wall only stands because every section holds. One uncovered gap is all the enemy needs.

    And here’s the other thing. Paul says in Ephesians 2:10 that you are God’s poiema — his masterpiece, his handiwork — “created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.”

    The works were prepared in advance. Before you figured out your gifts. Before you volunteered for anything. Before you even knew what your section was — God had already prepared the work that specifically fits the shape of who you are.

    Your section isn’t just available for you to take. It was made for you.

    So What Do You Do With This?

    Three very practical things.

    Look at what’s in front of you. Jedaiah built opposite his own house. The first question isn’t “where should I serve?” It’s “what do I see that needs doing, right where I am?” Most people are waiting for a dramatic calling moment. Meanwhile, there’s a gap in the wall right next to them.

    Stop waiting to feel qualified. The nobles in Tekoa were the most qualified people on the project. Their qualifications didn’t translate into contribution. What translates into contribution is simply deciding to put your shoulder to the work. The Tekoites didn’t have better gifts than the nobles — they had better posture.

    Ask what else needs doing. The Tekoites’ second section (3:27) is one of the most quietly radical moments in the chapter. They finished their assignment and instead of sitting down, they found another gap. Church culture tends to reward people who do what they’re asked. But the kingdom advances through people who, after doing what they’re asked, ask what else needs doing.

    The wall wasn’t rebuilt by a handful of exceptional people. It was rebuilt by ordinary people who each owned their section and built it well.

    The wall around your church, your team, your community, your family, your career — it’s being rebuilt right now. And there’s a section with your name on it.

    Find it. Own it. Build it.

    Next in this series: [Choose Your Travelling Companions — on standing together when the opposition comes.]

  • Building for people you’ll never see

    Building for people you’ll never see

    In 1248, they broke ground on a cathedral in Cologne, Germany.

    They laid the foundations carefully, precisely, with extraordinary ambition. The plans called for a building that would be the tallest structure in the world. Intricate stonework. Soaring arches. Hundreds of metres of stained glass. A project on a scale that few had ever attempted.

    And then life happened. Wars. Funding crises. Centuries passed. The project stalled for so long that a massive crane sat on top of the unfinished building for three hundred years — just sitting there, a reminder of something that hadn’t been finished yet.

    The cathedral was completed in 1880.

    Six hundred and thirty-two years after the first stone was laid.

    Nobody who broke that ground was alive to see it finished. Nobody who laid those initial foundations walked through those completed doors or watched the afternoon light come through the glass. They built something extraordinary — and never got to experience what they built.

    And yet they built it anyway.

    I keep coming back to that story. Because I think it says something important about the kind of building God is actually calling us to.

    The Question Most Leaders Never Ask

    Most of us are building for the next few years. Which makes complete sense — we have plans to deliver on, budgets to work within, targets to hit. The pressure of the immediate is real, and it deserves attention.

    But there’s a question underneath all of that which most leaders rarely stop to ask: Who am I building for beyond the people I can currently see?

    Not just your team. Not just your current congregation. Not just the people in the room. But the ones who haven’t arrived yet. The people who will walk through a door you built, in a culture you shaped, into something you started — long after you’ve moved on.

    This is the vision that runs through the book of Nehemiah, and it’s the vision that separates builders from managers.

    Nehemiah looks at the broken walls of Jerusalem and says something deceptively simple: “Come, let us rebuild the wall of Jerusalem.” (Nehemiah 2:17)

    Three words doing enormous theological work: Come. Let us. Rebuild.

    Come — it’s an invitation, not a command. He’s not conscripting people; he’s calling them into something bigger than themselves.

    Let us — it’s plural. There is no version of this vision where one person does the work alone.

    Rebuild — there’s history here. Something that was once whole. Something worth restoring. The vision isn’t to create something entirely new; it’s to recover what was always supposed to exist.

    But here’s what I keep noticing about Nehemiah: he isn’t just rebuilding for the people who are currently suffering under rubble and open gates. He’s building for the city that will come after this moment. He’s building for the generation that will inhabit what he restores.

    David’s Strange Obedience

    There’s a scene in 1 Chronicles 29 that I go back to often.

    David has spent a lifetime gathering resources for the temple. Timber. Gold. Silver. Precious stones. He’s been meticulous and generous, pouring massive personal wealth into this project. He calls the leaders of Israel together and makes one of the most extraordinary speeches in the Old Testament — essentially, “Here is what I’ve contributed, and here is what I’m asking you to give.”

    The result is extraordinary generosity from the people. They give lavishly. There’s celebration, worship, joy.

    And then David says something that stops me cold:

    “Everything comes from you, and we have given you only what comes from your hand.” (1 Chronicles 29:14)

    It’s a stunning statement. David has given colossal amounts of personal wealth. He’s led an unprecedented fundraising effort. And his conclusion is: I haven’t given you anything. Everything I offered, you gave me first.

    But here’s the thing we have to hold alongside that: David never got to build the temple. God told him he wouldn’t — that task belonged to his son Solomon. David poured everything he had into a project he wasn’t permitted to complete.

    And he did it anyway. Joyfully. Generously. Without bitterness.

    That’s not resignation. That’s a particular kind of faith — the faith of someone who has genuinely understood that what they’re building doesn’t belong to them. That they are stewards of something bigger than their own legacy.

    It’s one of the most countercultural leadership postures in Scripture, because so much of how we think about leadership is built around our impact, our vision, our era. David’s model completely dismantles that.

    The Hall of Faith’s Quiet Secret

    Hebrews 11 is one of the most well-known passages in the New Testament — the great “faith chapter,” the hall of fame of faithful people who trusted God in extraordinary circumstances.

    But tucked in the middle of it is something that doesn’t often get the attention it deserves:

    “All these people were still living by faith when they died. They did not receive the things promised; they only saw them and welcomed them from a distance, admitting that they were foreigners and strangers on earth.” (Hebrews 11:13)

    They didn’t receive what was promised. They saw it from a distance. They welcomed it from afar.

    And it says they died in faith.

    Not in disappointment. Not in failure. In faith.

    I want to die like that, still looking, still building!

    Because the theological reality is this: the promise was real, the inheritance was genuine, the building was happening — they just weren’t going to be the ones to occupy it. And they were okay with that. More than okay — they pressed on.

    Abraham “was looking forward to the city with foundations, whose architect and builder is God.” (Hebrews 11:10) He was building and journeying toward something he would never arrive at in his own lifetime. That was the nature of his obedience.

    The question for every leader is whether we can hold that same posture — pursuing the vision faithfully, even knowing that the fullness of it may be experienced by someone who comes after us.

    What This Actually Looks Like

    Let me bring this somewhere practical, because this isn’t just a theological reflection — it’s a leadership question with real implications for how you make decisions right now.

    Builders ask: what am I building that will outlast my involvement?

    Not in a morbid way. In a focused way. There is an enormous difference between building a ministry around your gifts and building a ministry that will continue to run well when your gifts are no longer in the room. One centres you. The other centres the mission. The best thing you can ever do for an organisation is make yourself less necessary to its daily functioning.

    Builders invest in people who will carry the work further than they can.

    David gathered resources and then handed them to Solomon. He didn’t protect what he’d accumulated — he released it. Builders look for people who are younger, less experienced, and potentially more gifted in the next season, and they pour into them without jealousy. If you are the ceiling of your team’s potential, something is wrong.

    Builders give generously, even to things they won’t benefit from.

    David’s logic in 1 Chronicles 29 is theologically simple but practically demanding: it all came from God anyway. The moment you genuinely grasp that — that what you hold, what you’ve built, what you’ve accumulated, came through your hands but not from your strength — something in how you give changes. You stop protecting and start releasing.

    N.T. Wright has a way of putting this that has stayed with me: “Look at circumstances through God’s purposes, not present limitation.” That’s builder’s vision. Not naïve optimism — not pretending the rubble isn’t there — but the capacity to see what this could become, not just what it currently is.

    Nehemiah surveyed the ruins of Jerusalem by night before he said anything to anyone. He looked carefully at the walls, the gates, the damage. He saw it clearly.

    And then he invited people into something bigger than the problem.

    Come. Let us. Rebuild.

    The Cologne Cathedral architects didn’t know it would take 632 years. They were just building the next section faithfully. And one day — long after they were gone — somebody walked through a finished door and worshipped in a space those founders could only have imagined.

    That’s the invitation. You won’t see all of it. But you get to build it.

    Come. Let us rebuild.